Naughty Secrets (19 page)
I really regret something I did lots of years ago. I seduced an eighteen-year-old virgin when I was in college. I wrote her
erotic poems, and eventually her parents found them. I guess it was her fault for keeping them where they could be discovered,
but I regret that I created a bad experience for her.
Yes, there are things I wish I hadn’t done. When I was young, I participated in sexual acts out of a need to feel desired.
I guess it was my low self-esteem, rather than enjoyment. I think that, in the long run, it lowered my self-esteem further.
The only sexual thing I regret is having been with so many people. I was safe about it every time, but I just wish there hadn’t
been so many. I know there are women out there who have been with more and my number isn’t all that high especially considering
how long I’ve been doing it, but I still have regrets.
I regret being with my first sexual partner for several reasons. First, I didn’t really like him. I wanted to make love with
my exfiancé and I didn’t want to go to him as a virgin so I let another guy, one I didn’t even particularly like, “initiate”
me. I regret it because my ex-fiancé said that coming to him a virgin would have been the best gift I could have ever given
him.
I remember having sex with a stranger. It was many years ago, before the threat of AIDS and herpes. I danced with a fellow
in a club and without any words spoken, left with him to go to his place.
We got undressed and lay down on his bed. He put his cock into me, moved his hips a few times, and then came. Perhaps five
minutes later he announced that he didn’t like sluts to sleep at his place, so he called me a cab. He made me feel so cheap.
All that I was to him was a hole for him to put his cock in.
I regret taking one of my girlfriends anally even though she expressed a great interest in it. It was entirely too painful
for her and I still feel very guilty for continuing even though she told me that it would be okay.
Many years ago I allowed my then-boyfriend to take my picture while I sucked his cock. He was a real pervert and kept pictures
of all his conquests. He still has it and I’m afraid it will end up in my husband’s hands someday.
I regret flirting with an old girlfriend whom I hadn’t seen in several years. We had lunch together and played and teased
through the meal. It was stupid to even contemplate anything, and thankfully, nothing happened. I was tempted, however.
I’m really sorry that I once participated in an orgy. It was just sex, and devoid of anything like fun. I felt lots of pressure
to perform well and I was so nervous that I hated it.
I was molested by a male family member (a cousin) when I was small. It was all oral, no anal or vaginal stuff. What I regret
is that it stole an innocence that wasn’t his to take.
I was molested by my grandfather. Although there was no actual intercourse, he touched me in the special forbidden places.
I guess I let him do it because, since my mom and dad divorced when I was small, I was starved for male attention. Now I feel
that it was my fault for letting it happen and not saying no.
To feel guilty for something over which you had no control is so sad. I hope at least one of the women who wrote these answers
is reading this now and will talk to a professional. Remember,
you
were the child and
he
was the grown-up. The responsibility is all his!
My best girlfriend and I live in far distant states, and when we visit each other we always spend our first night together
“solving the problems of the world” and usually drinking too much. On this visit to her house we were wondering why it’s every
guy’s fantasy to have two women at the same time.
You probably already know how this one goes. We kept drinking, and talking about how her husband (my oldest friend!), who
was happily asleep in the bedroom, was always teasing about having both of us in bed at the same time. Well, as the hour and
liquor wore on, we decided to give it a go (bad decision!). We staggered down the hall, crawled into their overstuffed king-size
bed, and began to arouse him. We didn’t actually “do it” but it did go too far.
When I came to my senses, I fled their bedroom for the guest room, wondering whether I could get an early flight home instead
of ever seeing them again. Thanks to my friends’ understanding and good sense, we talked about it in the morning, placing
no blame, and we all decided that it would never happen again. We also prayed no permanent harm had been done to our relationship.
Well, although it caused a temporary rift in our friendship, we’ve all recovered and our friendship is even stronger now.
I’m still haunted, however, by the fact that it could have permanently damaged a relationship that is one of the most important
in my life.
I deeply regret the time that I tried to bargain sex from an ex-girlfriend because I knew she still loved me and I was horny.
In the end she asked me whether I still loved her. I couldn’t even lie to her, and she was very hurt. Sometimes men behave
badly.
As a young man I did some homosexual playing around with another boy my age. Those days only pop into my head occasionally
but when they do it scares me to death.
While I was dating a fun-loving lady, I took several nude Polaroid photos of her. We didn’t really split up, we just sort
of mutually decided we weren’t going anywhere in our relationship, so she started dating other guys and I kind of entered
a dry spell. She let me keep the photos when we went our separate ways. When I later got married, I destroyed them but I wish
I had kept them. I would just like to look at them now. I always wondered what became of her.
I think I may have picked up a mild urinary tract or prostate infection when I had unprotected anal intercourse with a woman
I was dating several years ago. I went to my doctor and, on his advice, I took a full course of antibiotics. The infection
seems to have been cured.
I just want you to know that I didn’t regret the sex, which was superb, but the urinary frequency was no fun. Now I plan ahead.
Always.
Once when I was feeling really horny I pressured my wife for anal penetration while she had her period. I really wanted to
have plain old sex with her, but she used to get bad cramps if we did.
We used to joke and tease about having anal sex but to that point we hadn’t done it. Well, I was so horny I didn’t realize
that she was telling me to slow down and went ahead and penetrated her. I hurt her, and she resented it a lot, as she should
have. I regret having hurt her and, secretly, I regret having poisoned her on anal sex. I would like to try it again, but
I know she wouldn’t want it. After that, alas, we never did it again.
Fifteen years ago, while traveling for work, I got a blow job from a hooker. A male friend and I were away together and we’d
both had some drinks. My friend suggested we “rent” a woman who was working the lounge we were in. I was curious, so I succumbed
and I regret it to this day. I felt as if I let my wife, and worst of all myself, down.
A couple of years ago I met a lady for sex whom I had previously only known through the Internet. She was not what I imagined
she would be, and I probably hurt her feelings.
My biggest regret is the night I had sex for the first time with my high school steady, no protection, no nothing. It seemed
great at the time but, as I look back on it, we were too young and reckless. Our whole lives could have been changed. It’s
really scary.
I regret having sex with a boyfriend and then giving a blow job to his older brother while he watched. He said it was a fantasy,
but why with his brother? You’re the only person I’ve ever told.
I regret having had anal sex with my ex-husband. I regret it because I gave that part of myself to him when he never really
loved me. And most of the time it hurt and he never cared. He was so selfish.
In the late 1960s, early 1970s, I did a lot of swinging. It was fun and I enjoyed it; my wife at the time did, too, at first.
Eventually, however, she grew disillusioned but I was addicted and all but insisted that we continue.
Now I know that she endured to please me, but in the end it broke us up. It was a bittersweet experience for me. I still have
some good sex memories but I know I hurt her and am not proud of it.
Young and stupid
sums it up. The idea still appeals to me, but both partners must be equally committed.
T
he statistics were almost exactly the same for men and women: 96% of the men and 95% of the women who responded said that
they engage in oral sex.
Most of the answers, across all age groups and both sexes, were short and sweet and decidedly positive.
Oh yes!! I love it. I worship clits and vulvas, and love the smell, taste, and texture.
Oral sex is
great
foreplay! I honestly enjoy giving more than receiving but I cannot complain there either! I love knowing that I am pleasuring
him while it is a major turn-on for me as well.
I can’t get enough of her taste. She is cleanly shaven, so I would go down on her for hours if she’d let me.
I enjoy it very much. I love the feeling of a rock-hard cock in my mouth, and it’s great knowing that I’m driving him to the
brink time and again before I let him come deep in my throat.
I love it when he performs oral sex on me, and he has told me that he loves to watch me perform oral sex on him, because,
he says, I really enjoy it and my facial expressions show it.
I love it both ways. It’s soooooooo intimate.
I enjoy doing it a lot. I feel a lot of power doing that to him, controlling how much pleasure he’ll receive and when. He
doesn’t give me oral sex, though. Occasionally I’ve told him that if I do it for him he should do it for me. Fair is fair.
For this couple oral sex had become a bargaining chip. I’ll do for you if you’ll… In my opinion, that’s not what it’s all
about. View oral sex as two different activities. If you enjoy fellatio (where she performs on him) and/or cunnilingus (where
he performs on her), then great. Do what feels good and not what doesn’t. Don’t make it a “tit for tat” arrangement.
Quite a few respondents wrote that the male partner enjoys giving while the female doesn’t enjoy it as much.
Yes, we do have oral sex occasionally. She goes hot and cold about it. When she is in the mood to give oral to me it is absolutely
fantastic. I love giving oral to her anytime.
I love to give oral sex, but she does not. She does it occasionally, but stops when the pre-come starts because, she says,
she doesn’t like the taste. She has done it with me wearing a condom but even then she stops after a while. I have not yet
come from oral sex. It’s a big ambition of mine and my girlfriend has promised to let me cash in at some point.
