The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child (40 page)

right
versus
left brain

functioning,
41
,
116

sleep cycles,
104

temperament,
20
–23

New Brain, The
(Restak),
68

new skills, adaptation to,
97
–99

newspapers.
See
media issues

nine to eleven-year olds,
232
–33

norepinephrine,
27

note-taking,
198
–99

nutrition,
101
–3

O

observation skills

human behavior patterns,
263
–64

interiority,
56
–57

learning styles,
98

personality traits,
8
,
119
,
146

school years,
196

toddlers,
228

occipital lobe,
46

one-on-one interactions.
See also
friendships; group dynamics

adolescence,
234

conflict management,
260

long-term friendships,
222
–23

socialization,
12
,
64
,
74
,
221
–22

one to three-year olds.
See
toddlers

One True Thing
(film),
124

open groups,
232

original thinking,
60
–61

overnight processing,
99
,
125
,
187
–88

P

pace of life,
58

pain,
86
,
88

parasympathetic nervous system,
23
,
32
,
33
,
43

parental child,
136

parental relationships,
148
–49

parenting issues.
See also
discipline; school years

adolescence,
253

bonding process,
73
–93,
273
–78

family relationships,
134
–42

grandparents,
168
–71

supportive behaviors,
xiii
–xv

parietal lobe,
46

pathways, neurotransmitter.
See
neurotransmitters

Peanuts
,
80
,
81

peer pressure,
57
,
199
,
233
–34

peripheral nervous system,
31

perseverance,
277

personality traits

conversational skills,
63
–64

feelings,
88

genetic influences,
20
–21

healthy choices,
67

innie characteristics,
8

introversion/extroversion continuum,
xvii
–xviii,
52
–53

observation skills,
119
,
146

psychological testing,
7

social stages,
227
–36

personal space,
100
,
139
,
156
–57,
191

pets,
254

physical activity,
129
–30,
217
–19

physical affection,
84
–85,
100

pickiness,
101
,
175

play

aggressive behaviors,
260
–61

appropriate activities and toys,
116
–19

brain development,
116

electronic media,
119
–22

four to five-year olds,
229
–31

importance,
115
–16

innie/outie differences,
154
–56

six to eight-year olds,
231
–32

toddlers,
227
–29

Please Understand Me
(Keirsey and Bates),
83

popularity,
250
–51

positron emission tomography (PET),
xvii
,
30

Potter, Harry,
80
,
81

power struggles,
109
–10

predictability,
79

preschool,
15
,
194
–96

privacy,
11
,
98
–100,
139
,
155
–57,
191

problem-solving skills

creativity,
60
–61,
146
–47

and feelings,
235

left-brained children,
203

power struggles,
110

role-playing,
122
–23

protection skills,
173
–76,
179

proximity,
78
,
100

“Put on the Brakes” system,
23
,
32
–35

R

radio.
See
media issues

Rain Man
(film),
280

rapid eye movement (REM) sleep,
25

reading, importance of,
124
,
210
–11

reading suggestions,
283
–90

Reeves, Keanu,
xvii
reflection,
55
,
137
,
146
,
246
–47

reflective listening,
89
–90

rejection,
62
,
258

relationship-building skills,
90
–91,
235
–36,
244
,
251
,
273
–78

relaxation techniques,
128

research methodology,
xvi
–xix respect,
149
,
156
,
266

responsibility, assumption of,
107
–8

Restak, Richard,
68

reticular activating system,
28
,
29

revenge,
235
–36

right brain,
40
–43,
116
,
201
–3,
246

risky behavior,
108
–9

rituals.
See
routines

rivalry,
157
–58

Roberts, Julia,
xvi

Rogers, Fred,
50

role-playing,
123

routines,
96
–100,
105
,
178
–79,
238
–39

S

sadness,
86

safe haven,
78
,
98
–100

Sawyer, Diane, xvi Sawyer, Tom,
81

school years

challenges,
183
–87

classroom environments,
59
,
190
–91,
212

college education,
215
–17

cultural values,
51

elementary school,
15
,
197
–98

giftedness,
215

high school,
15
,
199
–201

homework,
212
–14

kindergarten,
196
–97

learning styles,
187
–201,
208
–14

middle school,
15
,
198
–99

preschool,
15
,
194
–96

right
versus
left brain

functioning,
201
–3

study skills,
208
–12

teacher responsiveness,
183
–86,
193
–94,
206
–8

temperament detection,
15

Schore, Allan,
24

security,
79
–80,
100
,
173

self-absorption,
13
,
64
–65

self-confidence,
66
,
79
,
109
,
252

self-control,
106
,
192

self-discipline,
106

self-esteem

bullying,
267

competitiveness,
158

conformity,
108

cultural values,
51
,
53
–54

high school,
200
–201

internalization,
76

self-talk,
209

shyness,
11
–12

socialization,
234

self-regulation,
87
–89,
194
–96

self-soothing skills,
126
–29

sensitivity,
11
,
88
,
258
,
279
–80

sensory integration dysfunction,
11
,
279

separation anxiety,
76
–77

Series of Unfortunate Events, A
(Snicket),
80
,
81

serotonin,
27

set points,
23
–25

shame,
86
,
91
–92,
107

shared stories, importance of,
43
–47,
147
–48

sharing toys,
229
,
230

short-term memory,
8
,
41
,
44
–46,
197
,
208

shyness,
10
–12

Shyness Breakthrough: A No-Stress Plan to Help Your Child Warm Up, Open Up, and Join the Fun, The
(Carducci),
11

sibling relationships

boundaries,
156
–57

conflict management,
161
–62

mutual understanding,
153
–56

rivalry,
157
–58

twin studies,
160

Siegel, Daniel,
201

single parents,
136
,
139
–40

six to eight-year olds,
231
–32

sleep,
104
–5,
200

slow pace,
55
,
58
,
138
–39,
276
–77

snacks,
102
–3

Snicket, Lemony,
80
,
81

social anxiety,
10
–12,
281

socialization

adolescence,
233
–36

birthday parties,
248
–52

building bridges,
244
–45

bullying,
260
,
265
–70

caregivers,
177
–78

cultural values,
51
–54

dating,
252
–55

energy management,
226

family gatherings,
174

four to five-year olds,
229
–31

hindsight,
240
–41

homebody syndrome,
243
–44

human behavior patterns,
263
–64

icebreakers,
241

innie/outie differences,
221
–26,
231
–32,
245
–48

internalization,
56
–57,
242
–43,
258
–59

nine to eleven-year olds,
232
–33

one-on-one interactions,
12
,
64
,
74
,
221
–22

popularity,
250
–51

school years,
194
–201

self-absorption,
13

shyness,
10
–12

six to eight-year olds,
231
–32

social stages,
227
–36

stranger anxiety,
244
–45

toddlers,
227
–29

transition management,
238
–40

solitude,
11
,
58
,
64
–65

Spider-Man,
80

Spielberg, Steven,
50

spirituality,
56
–57

stability,
276

Stand By Me
(film),
268

staying in touch,
172
,
178

stimulation

balance,
6

brain responsiveness,
36
–39

classroom environments,
59
,
185
–87,
193

energy management,
8
,
24
–25

external sources,
5
–6

extroverted children,
107

family gatherings,
174

feedback from others,
193